It was a great day for me today. My son did very well at power skating, I ran into one of my best friends from university whom I haven’t seen in many years, and Hubster and I had an afternoon to ourselves as our son was at a friends place. It was a relaxing, wonderful Sunday. I smiled all day long.
And then tonight happened.
There are a lot of things worth my time. Tonight, I didn’t even bother attending the confrontations I was invited to because, frankly, I don’t care. For someone to pick at petty things in my life is a form of disrespect and combativeness that I don’t need to be a part of. If someone wants to try to control my feelings that obsessively, I have one suggestion – don’t bother because you’re just going to end up being disappointed in me.
Hence, my rant of the day.
I understand that sometimes people feel the need to be sarcastic and antagonistic in a playful way, but what they need to understand is that there is a time and place.
During a proud moment in my life, when I’m feeling at the top of my game is not the best time. Save it for when it’s called for. Today was not that day. Here’s another suggestion – keep it to yourself. When these people are argumentative, controlling, sarcastic, rude, petty, and trying to bring others down to their ridiculous level, I have a problem with it.
Why aren’t we allowed to be proud, have a good day, or enjoy being who we are?? Because you felt the need to knock us down a level or two? Well, then, I have three words for you – GET OVER YOURSELF.
I’m not a naturally mean-spirited person. I don’t lie, steal, spit venom, or try to ruin someone else’s day just for the hell of it. Why would I do that?? To feel better about myself? I already like who I am and I’m proud of being my naturally smiley and optimistic self. I don’t want to hurt others and I’d never purposely set my mind on it by trying to control their actions/thoughts/words. They’re entitled to be who they want to be as much as I am.
Maybe I’m being overly-sensitive but I’m so tired of other people picking apart the stupid, petty things in life that don’t mean anything. It’s all about priorities people.
My spelling mistakes. I’m a writer, I know how to write. And if I make a typo, it’s probably not because I can’t write properly – I have a book published which tells me that I have a good idea about grammar, syntax, and lexicon. If I do happen to make a spelling error, it’s probably by accident. For someone to point it out to me is fruitless because chances are good that I’ve already noticed it and I’ve left it just to piss people off or because it’s just not on my list of priorities. If anyone should be pointing out spelling mistakes, it should be me – but why the hell would I bother?? Is it really worth my time? Um, no.
And for those who criticize me about my parenting – for being too soft on my son bc I don’t spank him and for those who say I’m too harsh on the kid for making him do a sink full of plastic dishes bc he’s part of the family instead of doing it for money – this rant is for you also. I may not be a perfect mom (hell, who is?!), but I love my kid more than anything, and for one day I was allowed to feel the effects of him calling me “SuperMom,” so let me just enjoy it because, let’s face it, those words are few and far between in most households, mine included.
I’d call them trolls but aren’t trolls intimidated by other ppl? Not these sarcastic anger-spewing people – they’re keyboard cowboys who hide behind the letters L-O-L. Everything seems to be a joke to them, which I’m convinced is actually the scapegoat through which they expect me to accept their negative connotations.
But it’s the superiority complex that bothers me the most – the arrogant, self-serving, judgmental attitudes of people who need to point out other’s mistakes in order to make themselves feel “better” than everyone else. It’s true what they say – what you say and do says less about me and more about you. Start thinking of others and less about yourself because the world is full of enough negativity already. Keep the negative garbage away from me.
Don’t get me wrong, I have my terrible moments just like everyone else, but I surely don’t direct them at people just for the sake of hurting them or making them feel inferior. I hate giving my opinion on most things unless I’m directly asked. Instead, I focus that rotten energy on something productive – my writing, jogging, or yoga. I find a way to turn a negative into a positive. And if that doesn’t seem to be working, I talk to my best friend and vent to him for a while – I get it off my chest to the one person in my life who actually cares because I know that no else will.
So, for those of you who may have attempted to ruin my perfectly great days – past or present – let me give you some advice for the next time you want to confront me in a negative, controlling, sarcastic, combative way…just don’t.
Instead of being antagonistic towards other people who have something good to say (including myself), try being a little more positive and accepting. I can guarantee one thing – your negativity will only be tolerated for so long and then I won’t put up with it anymore and you’ll be thrown out like last weeks newspaper.
I guess what I’m trying to say through all the ups and downs of my day is that we all need to just keep our thoughts to ourselves sometimes and BE NICE.